Common sense thinking about being an ACTIVE parent – What is the end goal?
We are excited to hear from one of our MMM moms as she shares her thoughts about her low tech journey with her four boys! Maureen will be contributing a short series “Active Parenting” for our MMM readers! Thanks Maureen!
Parenting successfully in today’s world takes a lot of guts. It is important to think about what we are doing, what our priorities are and what type of children we hope to raise. Keeping the end goal in mind can help when it comes to making all the daily decisions that build our families. It’s the small daily decisions that make up parenting.
I am the mom of four boys (ages 19, 17, 15, 12). These boys are energetic, positive, independent, well-rounded, hard-working, responsible, giving, outdoorsy, athletic and interesting young adults. So far so good! Thanks to a great and supportive husband, good health, faith, luck, and maybe some “old-fashioned” parenting, I love our boys and our family time. My husband and I parent “actively” every day. To me, that means that we take an active role in our children’s lives and we actively make decisions that create our family world, and we have high expectations of our boys. For example, if your end goal is to raise children who are hard workers, you might decide to have the family do yard work together, or stay late and help clean up at the school fundraiser instead of immediately running off when your shift ends. The kids get to learn firsthand that it takes a lot of hard work to organize an event. Besides, it sure is nice to help out those who have worked hard, and it’s great fun to push the cart loaded with folding tables through the empty school hallways!
Our sons are great kids – not perfect kids. They get good grades, work hard, and enjoy time with their family. We truly enjoy working and playing together! We live in suburban Knoxville and have one child at the University of TN and the others in the public middle and high schools. My husband is a scientist and I am now an at-home mom with a science background. Our priorities are family, education, volunteering, and nature. Over the years we have made many small choices that have supported those priorities and built our family identity. I believe that our family works because of the many small decisions that we have made – some mainstream and some counter-cultural and “geeky.” Through these small, daily decisions we have accomplished some big things (more about some of our parenting decisions in future posts). Through the years, keeping the end goal in mind has made parenting relatively straightforward. Notice, I did not say that it has made parenting easy!